By Mercy Roland
CEO, Mercyspeaks Initiatives

As Valentine’s Day approaches, many teenagers begin to measure their value through attention, gifts, outings, and social approval. This period often comes with emotional pressure, especially for young people who are still trying to understand relationships and acceptance. For parents, this is an important moment to guide rather than assume that their children already understand these realities.

Teenagers must be reminded that their worth is not defined by who buys them gifts or who invites them out. True affection never demands proof through actions that make them uncomfortable or unsafe. Parents should use this period to have honest conversations about personal boundaries, self-respect, and the confidence to say no without fear of losing friendships or approval.

When young people understand self-worth early, they are less likely to seek validation in unhealthy ways. Valentine’s Day should not become a test of popularity or pressure, but an opportunity to reinforce values that protect their emotional and personal wellbeing.

Let this season remind parents that guidance given before a decision is always more powerful than correction after a mistake. Raising teenagers who understand their value is one of the greatest protections a parent can offer.